While it may be simple enough to figure out a plan for protecting yourself, Phearthur Moore of Fairfield Taekwondo says women should also consider how to protect others in their care.
“If women have elderly people they are responsible for in an emergency situation, running may not be an option. Hiding may be an option,” he said. “Women would need to decide if it would be better for them to escape and summon help or if they should remain with the person and help them hide or provide comfort to them. This might result in the woman being captured, but it is a choice (she) would need to make. “
Moore also offers advice for protecting children in a variety of situations.
“If infants or young children are involved, running may be an option if it is safe to do so. Hiding is also an option; however, infants may give hiding locations away. The adult must decide what they think is best. Women should talk to their children about the importance of doing exactly what they tell them in an emergency situation. I believe counting to three before their child has to obey is a bad habit. They may need them to obey immediately. Their lives and maybe other lives could depend on them obeying instructions immediately.”
Even if it’s not an emergency situation, good habits are needed when dealing with children.
“Women should teach their children not to talk to strangers, regardless of who they may be. It is not the child’s responsibility to help anyone find pets, addresses, or anything else,” he said. “If a stranger tries to talk to them, children should immediately go to an adult and tell them. Children should know their parent’s given name (not Mom, Dad, or a nickname). They should know their parent’s home and cell phone numbers as well as their address. Women should teach their children how to interact with the police. If stopped by the police, children should do exactly what they are told to do. They should not move too quickly or too slowly. They should be polite and non-combative. If they are told to be quiet—shut up—they should do so. It does not matter that they have not done anything wrong. They will never win in a confrontation with the police. Their goal should be to get through the situation safely.”
Women should also have rules in place for their children during school hours and while online.
“Children should report incidents of bullying to their parents. If the school does not address the bullying problem, consider addressing the situation in writing with copies up the line,” he said.
“Parents should talk to their children about the perils of social media and try to stay abreast of what they are doing on social media.”
Moore cautions his advice is only suggested guidelines. Women should also consult an attorney for legal advice when it comes to defending themselves and their loved ones.
To learn more about Phearthur Moore and Fairfield Taekwondo, visit him at 5126 Valley Road Fairfield, Alabama 35064, or call 205-903-8399.
Editor’s Note: This is part two of a four-part series on protecting yourself and those you love. Click here for part one.