It’s so hard when you see someone you love going through something. If you’re anything like me, you feel helpless. Maybe you want to help, but you just don’t know how. Here are a few ways to help a hurting friend.

Be there. Sometimes you don’t have to say or do anything when someone you love is hurting. Often your mere presence is enough. People want to know they matter and that they aren’t going through situations alone. Sit with her, hold her hand, let her cry, give her a hug. Don’t feel like you have to say anything. Just be there and love on her, even if it’s only for a few minutes.

Don’t judge. Jesus didn’t judge, and neither should you. Yes, you knew the guy was trouble the minute your girl introduced her to him, and you tried to tell her, but she wouldn’t listen. Now that her heart is broken, it’s not the time to say I told you so. Bite your tongue and keep your thoughts to yourself.

Just listen. I have this theory that all the answers people need already exist inside of them. Sometimes you just need a sounding board to sort through things. Let your friend vent to you without offering your thoughts or opinions. If she asks what she should do, flip the question back on her and ask her what she thinks she should do, then just be quiet.

Take her out to eat. Sometimes a change of scenery does a world of good. Getting your girl out of the house can change her perspective on whatever she’s going through. Plus, if you’re anything like me and my girls, getting together guarantees having a good time. Going out to eat will give her (and you) a chance to laugh and get some good food.

Pray for her. The number one thing you can do in any situation is pray. You may not have the answers on how to help, so talk to the one who does. He will give you insight on how to handle the situation.

What are some things you can do to help a hurting friend?