School librarian Shelia Jackson found a new way to love in the book that changed her life.
What is the book that changed your life? The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Tell me about the book.
Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their “love tank.” Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.
Why did it impact you?
This book impacted me deeply. It made me look at myself in a way that I haven’t looked before. It made me look at the good, the bad and the ugly that was in me. It showed me how being the best me could help me be a better mate for my husband. I learned that what I thought was important to him really wasn’t. His love language was totally different than mine. I had to learn how to love him the way he desired. We have been married 18 years now, and these are really the best years of our marriage. It’s still a work in progress, but we are willing to do the work needed to make it work.
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