The April Momma of the Month Joiya C. Posey is unapologetically #TeamMom, and she is determined to make a difference not just in her kids’ lives, but the lives of countless others.
Tell me about yourself.
My name is Joiya Carlette Posey, and I am 40 years old. I grew up all over Birmingham, Alabama. My parents lived in Ensley, but I spent most of my time with my grandparents in East Birmingham and Avondale.
My husband’s name is Steve Posey and we have been married for almost 19 years. We have two children, Aniyah Joirdyn (17) and Steven DeWayne (11).
I work in the legal department at Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Alabama as a subrogation/workers’ compensation specialist. In June, I will celebrate 20 years as an employee.
What do you want your kids to learn from your life?
I want my kids to know that they should always be in a position to help someone and not expect anything in return. No matter how small the gesture or how insignificant their effort(s) may seem, that when doing/giving with the right intentions, a blessing will come from it. You never know who is watching or who you inspire just by being genuine and kind.
What are the best and worst things about living in Birmingham?
Birmingham has always been my home and I couldn’t imagine living anywhere else. One of the best things about living in Birmingham would be that the majority of my family and friends live here and there’s plenty of fun things to do that aren’t expensive. We also have some pretty amazing restaurants and places to hang out.
If you could change one thing about Birmingham, what would it be and why?
If I could change anything about Birmingham, it would be our public school system. We have too many schools that are failing. We shouldn’t have just one or two “special” schools that we focus on. We should make sure that all of them have the same resources and that the kids reach their full potential.
What has been the biggest parenting surprise?
The biggest parenting surprise…hmmm. I’d say the constant fighting between siblings. LOL Seriously, that’s a tough one because my kids constantly amaze me. They are so much smarter and talented that I could’ve imagined they’d ever be. My daughter is only 17 years old, but she as a level of maturity about her that is beyond her years. She’s very passionate about people in general and has a tenacious personality that I admire. My son is 11 years old and his friends look to him for advice and guidance. Not because he actually has the experience or anything, but because his calm disposition makes them think about things and helps them make better decisions.
What is your proudest wife moment?
I think my proudest wife moment was each time I saw Steve look at our children the day they were born. He looked at them and then looked at me as if to say, “thank you”. The love he has for Aniyah and Steven is truly unconditional. He would do anything to keep them safe and make sure they have what they need.
What is your proudest momma moment?
My proudest momma moment would have to be when both of my children decided to give their life to Christ. They both made the decision independently and told me when they were ready. I never pushed them to do it, but I made sure that they knew about Jesus, how He died for all of us and the importance of accepting Him as their own personal Savior. I know that they both truly understand the decision they’ve made and it makes me even prouder when I hear them having their own personal “Praise Party.”
What’s next for Joiya Posey?
I’ve been talking about going back to school to finish getting my degree. I’ve always said I wanted to have it done before Aniyah graduated high school. Well, that gives me a year. I guess I better get busy!
Is there anything you would like to add?
I consider myself to be the #TeamMom. Not just for my kids, but for their close friends and whatever team they are coaching or playing on. Whether it is making sure they have the right size uniform, arranging for post game snacks or just making sure the parents are informed of all practice and game times, I just enjoy giving back. There are so many children that are starving for attention and quality time. Sometimes that hunger causes them to act out and misbehave. I believe that if we can keep our kids active, then that will allow less time for their minds to become idol and for them to get into things. I have so many adopted kids that I can’t keep count. I pray that the time and energy that I pour into them will make a difference. I believe that if we show our kids how to give back and work with others, then our community will grow and be better.